One part of your life that either builds self-respect or tears it down is behavior–the choices you make. Everyone is involved in a multitude of choices every day and your self-respect depends on the quality of your performance.
You do your best.
You do poorly.
You do it right.
You mess it up.
You do what is required.
You cheat.
You follow instructions.
You disobey.
You give it all you've got.
You do it half-heartedly.
You keep your agreements.
You go back on your word.
These and more are choices you make day after day, according to the principles that guide you.
Consider some statements from wise King David:
Knowledge of Sin
Thy word have I treasured in my heart, that I may not sin against Thee (Ps. 119:11).
Insight and Understanding
I have more insight than all my teachers, for Thy testimonies are my meditation. I understand more than the aged, because I have observed thy precepts. I have restrained my feet from every evil way, that I may keep Thy word (Ps. 119:99-101).
Peace and Stability
Those who love Thy law have great peace, and nothing causes them to stumble (Ps. 119:165).
Wednesday, April 29, 2009
Tuesday, April 21, 2009
How can I find happiness in my life? (2)
Without complaining, he went to his job every day. At night he returned, his attitude as positive as if he had his old job. One night he got to talking enthusiastically about the fine art of digging ditches and how he was enjoying the opportunity of working outdoors and using his strength to accomplish a task. "I've never felt better in my life," he commented.
We boys were so fascinated by his enthusiasm that we went to watch him. Most of the men who worked with him were leaning on their shovels, looking miserable. Not our neighbor. When he saw us, he stopped to take us on a quick tour. He told us how to dig a ditch. Then he showed us his handiwork. His ditches were straight…uniformly deep - with firm sides. "Aren't they beautiful?" He was proud of his ditches.
One night, he announced that he had been made foreman. He was filled with compassion and pity for his men. They refused to accept their lot in life and spent the day moaning and complaining. Our neighbor now had a new zest for his job the challenge of lifting his men out of despondency and showing them how to be thankful they had some work to do.
As I watched this highly skilled craftsman who could find a challenge and satisfaction in anything he did, I realized he had mastered a pivotal principle: it was not the task that was important, but the spirit he brought to that task. He brought an undaunted spirit to every task and experience. As a result, he was happy and successful.
This man had a faith that sustained him. His faith could be summed up in these verses from the Bible:
Trust in the LORD with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge Him, and He will make your paths straight (Prov. 3:5-6). -Henry Brandt. Visit him at www.BiblicalCounselingInsight.com
We boys were so fascinated by his enthusiasm that we went to watch him. Most of the men who worked with him were leaning on their shovels, looking miserable. Not our neighbor. When he saw us, he stopped to take us on a quick tour. He told us how to dig a ditch. Then he showed us his handiwork. His ditches were straight…uniformly deep - with firm sides. "Aren't they beautiful?" He was proud of his ditches.
One night, he announced that he had been made foreman. He was filled with compassion and pity for his men. They refused to accept their lot in life and spent the day moaning and complaining. Our neighbor now had a new zest for his job the challenge of lifting his men out of despondency and showing them how to be thankful they had some work to do.
As I watched this highly skilled craftsman who could find a challenge and satisfaction in anything he did, I realized he had mastered a pivotal principle: it was not the task that was important, but the spirit he brought to that task. He brought an undaunted spirit to every task and experience. As a result, he was happy and successful.
This man had a faith that sustained him. His faith could be summed up in these verses from the Bible:
Trust in the LORD with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge Him, and He will make your paths straight (Prov. 3:5-6). -Henry Brandt. Visit him at www.BiblicalCounselingInsight.com
Friday, April 17, 2009
How can I find happiness in my life? (1)
Good evening friends. How can we find happiness in our life? Maybe a tough question to someone. But somebody else it’s not. If I were to be asked, for me it’s easy to find happiness in my life. Ourselves is the one ruling us. Let me share you one article which was written by Henry Brandt. You can visit him at www.BiblicalCounselingInsight.com. Let me share with you one of his topic. It’s a nice one.
A line of research concerning a group of young people called "indestructibles" was once reported in a leading psychological journal.
These indestructibles lived under extreme poverty, and came from very bad home conditions that were located in slum neighborhoods. Yet, they were well-adjusted and good students.
That research got me to thinking of some people I've met in my life who fit the description of “indestructibles.”
It is true that we cannot prevent troublesome or sorrowful events from intruding into our lives. But some people live heartily, joyfully, considerately one day at a time. They rely on their power of choice, whether their problems are solved today or not.
My first encounter with an indestructible was when I was a teen-ager.
The man was one of our next-door neighbors. It was during the height of the Depression. People by the droves were out of work; they were losing their life savings as a result of bank failures and were being evicted from their homes. Suicides were frequent. Nervous breakdowns were common.
My neighbor was a highly skilled (and highly paid) tool-and-die-maker. Suddenly, he was without a job or a paycheck. The best he could do was get a job with the WPA, a governmental agency which gave menial jobs to as many people as possible. His assignment: dig ditches.
This seemed a terrible thing to me. Imagine this top-flight craftsman digging ditches!
A line of research concerning a group of young people called "indestructibles" was once reported in a leading psychological journal.
These indestructibles lived under extreme poverty, and came from very bad home conditions that were located in slum neighborhoods. Yet, they were well-adjusted and good students.
That research got me to thinking of some people I've met in my life who fit the description of “indestructibles.”
It is true that we cannot prevent troublesome or sorrowful events from intruding into our lives. But some people live heartily, joyfully, considerately one day at a time. They rely on their power of choice, whether their problems are solved today or not.
My first encounter with an indestructible was when I was a teen-ager.
The man was one of our next-door neighbors. It was during the height of the Depression. People by the droves were out of work; they were losing their life savings as a result of bank failures and were being evicted from their homes. Suicides were frequent. Nervous breakdowns were common.
My neighbor was a highly skilled (and highly paid) tool-and-die-maker. Suddenly, he was without a job or a paycheck. The best he could do was get a job with the WPA, a governmental agency which gave menial jobs to as many people as possible. His assignment: dig ditches.
This seemed a terrible thing to me. Imagine this top-flight craftsman digging ditches!
Tuesday, March 31, 2009
Make Space in your Life
For many of us, dreams may seem like a luxury or something unattainable, but in the long run ignoring your needs and interests can led to frustration and unhappiness. Going after your dreams means you are using your unique talents and first, and living life to the fullest. “without our dreams, all we have is reality.” People with dreams live longer, healthier lives.
Starting today, make a promise to yourself that realizing your goal will top your to-do list. To achieve this, you’ll have to clear your schedule of some unnecessary clutter. You need to create space in your life for your dream. Use passion as the barometer for deciding what to quit. Say no to something you don’t need or want to do, and say yes to your dream.
Starting today, make a promise to yourself that realizing your goal will top your to-do list. To achieve this, you’ll have to clear your schedule of some unnecessary clutter. You need to create space in your life for your dream. Use passion as the barometer for deciding what to quit. Say no to something you don’t need or want to do, and say yes to your dream.
Wednesday, March 25, 2009
Follow Your Dream
Good morning friends. There are certain things to live by. One of it is to follow your dreams. Some says that if you will not follow your dream as if you will die. I came across with the article compiled by Natasha Persaud. It’s a good one. Those who gave more importance to their dreams, you have to aim for that. I want to share it to you.
Each of us has the power of transforming the ordinary into the extraordinary—the everyday into the special. - Johnnetta B. Cole
I’ve always tried to go a step past wherever people expected me to end up. - Beverly Sills
To be true to yourself take some action—no matter how small. - Barbara Braham
As soon as you feel too old to do a thing, do it. - Margaret Deland
We can be anything. Maybe this entire experience is a series of lessons to learn that you can—yes, you can. - Maya Angelou
It’s where we go, and what we do when we get there, that tells us who we are. - Joyce Carol Oates
Those born with a talent which is meant to be used find their greatest joy in using it. - Johann von Goethe
We don’t know who we are until we see what we can do. - Martha Grimes
When people say, “It can’t be done” of “you don’t have what it takes,” it makes the task all the more interesting. - Lynn Hill
Compiled by Natasha Persaud
Each of us has the power of transforming the ordinary into the extraordinary—the everyday into the special. - Johnnetta B. Cole
I’ve always tried to go a step past wherever people expected me to end up. - Beverly Sills
To be true to yourself take some action—no matter how small. - Barbara Braham
As soon as you feel too old to do a thing, do it. - Margaret Deland
We can be anything. Maybe this entire experience is a series of lessons to learn that you can—yes, you can. - Maya Angelou
It’s where we go, and what we do when we get there, that tells us who we are. - Joyce Carol Oates
Those born with a talent which is meant to be used find their greatest joy in using it. - Johann von Goethe
We don’t know who we are until we see what we can do. - Martha Grimes
When people say, “It can’t be done” of “you don’t have what it takes,” it makes the task all the more interesting. - Lynn Hill
Compiled by Natasha Persaud
Wednesday, March 18, 2009
Mom-kid attachement, Good Friendship, Precious Moment
Good morning friends. there are different ways to become happy. Some make themselves by going to a mall, some enjoyed while there were in the company of their friends, some enjoy when they were alone. But the important is that you know how you can make yourself happy the way you want it to be. I want to share an article which I read about mother and child. With all moms, they get happy when they were together with their child. Simple happiness but you can feel the value of being together.
Toddlers who are strongly attached to their mothers are more likely to form closer friendships in the early grade-school years. Mother-child relationships may be important in guiding children’s outlook towards other close relationships.
"In a secure, emotionally open mother-child relationship, children develop a more positive, less biased understanding of others, which then promotes more positive friendships during the early school years." Children who were securely attached at age three showed more open emotional communication with mothers and better language ability.
It was found that open emotional communication at age four and a half was related to mother- and teacher-reported friendship quality via the child’s general peer competence in first grade. "When kids feel comfortable talking about their emotions, especially their negative emotions, it increases their social competence with classmates and leads to closer friendships."
The way children interpret other people’s behavior may begin to develop in the context of early relationships in the family, and these interpretations may be important for a child’s ability to get along with friends later on".
With this open emotional communication, mother-child relationship will stay as good as it is and the feelings of happiness will always be felt.
Toddlers who are strongly attached to their mothers are more likely to form closer friendships in the early grade-school years. Mother-child relationships may be important in guiding children’s outlook towards other close relationships.
"In a secure, emotionally open mother-child relationship, children develop a more positive, less biased understanding of others, which then promotes more positive friendships during the early school years." Children who were securely attached at age three showed more open emotional communication with mothers and better language ability.
It was found that open emotional communication at age four and a half was related to mother- and teacher-reported friendship quality via the child’s general peer competence in first grade. "When kids feel comfortable talking about their emotions, especially their negative emotions, it increases their social competence with classmates and leads to closer friendships."
The way children interpret other people’s behavior may begin to develop in the context of early relationships in the family, and these interpretations may be important for a child’s ability to get along with friends later on".
With this open emotional communication, mother-child relationship will stay as good as it is and the feelings of happiness will always be felt.
Monday, March 9, 2009
Never Stop Having Fun
Many of us have lost our sense of fun. I asked one of my friend how they define fun. Some say going to a party or meet some of friends and watch movies, some says eat the food whenever they feel. But fun doesn’t have to be that complicated. Having fun doesn’t need to cost money. And it also doesn’t have to last for hours or days. The benefits are too powerful to ignore: it takes you away from your responsibilities for a few minutes, refreshes you and makes you more productive and organized.
Put it to work. If you’re worried that you’ve forgotten how to play, think back to childhood. What did you love to do when you were still a kid? What flavor of the ice cream you always asked with your mom? What kind of toy you want to play? For my friend Danny, a fun afternoon is spent browsing at antiques store for favorite games and small cars he played with as a child.
Put it to work. If you’re worried that you’ve forgotten how to play, think back to childhood. What did you love to do when you were still a kid? What flavor of the ice cream you always asked with your mom? What kind of toy you want to play? For my friend Danny, a fun afternoon is spent browsing at antiques store for favorite games and small cars he played with as a child.
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